November 8, 2010

Friday night. I clutch my driving directions in one hand and refer to them in the glow of my car’s interior light. 16th Street to Florida, right on R, take 23rd at the roundabout, and so on. I’m on my way to meet friends in Arlington and decided to take surface streets rather than looping […]

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The shape of it

November 1, 2010

She sits across the table from me, her head bent low, an arm shielding her paper. The top of her marker twirls and swoops like a figure skater carving a pattern in the ice. It’s all I can see for her effort. What she draws is a secret, and I’m bound by solemn vow not […]

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October 29, 2010

And so we go back, is what I was going to tell you. But that’s not how it is, how it ever is. Always forward. We are moving back to Arizona. In the process of working out (at long last) our parenting agreement, I decided that it made sense to live there again. It will […]

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September 12, 2010

Every year around this time, I get nostalgic for the place and the trip that inspired this song and this post (which is one of my favorites).  It’s a rainy day and I’m feeling self-indulgent, so I’m sharing them both again here. The song: Miles to Montana* Answer I was in the middle of nowhere, […]

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August 30, 2010

Last week, I attended the first of two co-parenting sessions, a class that’s court-ordered for all parents who are going through a divorce or separation from the other parent. The point of the class is to teach us how to communicate better with each other and to make a difficult transition easier on our kids. […]

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The switch

August 14, 2010

Twenty or so years ago. My friend C and I are on a Metro train headed north to New Haven to hear some live music or to go dancing, or both. To be seen, to see. All at once, a feeling of unease twists through me like a corkscrew, an overwhelming instinct that we shouldn’t […]

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July 31, 2010

I knew I should have baked some cookies. What kind of hostess invites a bunch of people over and doesn’t offer a snack? If you’ve just come from Thursday Drive –  or anywhere, really –  thank you for stopping by my new place. I’ve been busy designing and setting it up, and I’m glad to […]

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Coming soon…

July 20, 2010

My blog, Thursday Drive, will soon move to its new home here…

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April 28, 2010

I could tell you things. Hell, I’ve tried. I’ve lost count of the times I’ve tried to scoop up the words like bits of confetti. There’s so much to tell that there’s not much I can say. Important choices and heavy-sounding words (Custody. Parenting time. But you said. No, you did. What’s best. What’s best?) sit in […]

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Good fortune

March 13, 2010

I reached into the bread basket on the kitchen counter and pulled out one of half a dozen fortune cookies left over from a takeout order a couple of weeks ago. I cracked it open and found this. At the end of a tough day of trying to stand my ground about some important things, […]

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